‘Playboy’ is one of those terms we grant to men, much like the word ‘slut’ with women. But how many of us really can spot a playboy in their natural habitat? I too was one who thought I could spot one like a hippo trying to blend with gazelles. However, what I found was that those who are true playboys are a kind of their own and are quite ingenious at their own game.
The playboy we typically utilize in our everyday vernacular is one who easily draws a new women into their chambers at the end of evening, never to speak to them again. Or, maybe calls them up for a quickie months down the road. There is no true game in this. Why? Let me explain.
Women have decided to let men run with this term playboy, without having to live up to the true definition. Come on. If a woman wants to drop her panties at the word ‘athlete’ or ‘millionaire’, that’s your own prerogative. But, let’s not give a man the term ‘playboy’ when it’s not deserved. Hey, if you are both on the same page…whatever, go for it…no judging should occur. And, might I mention, you can’t get upset or go crazy on him when he doesn’t call you. You took the bait – and might I add that it looked like a piece of rubber at the end of a hook, he didn’t even try to mask it as a worm. And, since you were ignorant enough to take the poorly disguised bait, shame on you.
So, what is a real playboy?
A REAL playboy is one that can make a woman nearly fall for him in a single evening, and you will still think you have a chance for months until you finally realize…you’ve been played.
Let’s depict a typical scenario that could transpire for a true playboy and his prey.
The evening will begin by meeting someone who you perceive to be a complete gentleman. He introduces himself to your friends and has conversations with everyone in the group. Though he may befriend your cohorts, he is still discussing you with them, trying to get in-depth information into your persona. Your first thought is, ‘WOW, he is really interested in me. Look at the time he is investing in getting to know my friends and everything about me.’
As the night continues you will begin to spend more time in deep conversations with him, finding out about each other’s families, life goals, passions, etc. Both of your foundations in life are so similar that it draws you even closer to each other. When the night comes to an end, you even contemplate spending the night with him…but, decide against it. The goodnight kiss is so passionate and he softly whispers in your ear, “I could kiss you forever” – or something to that affect.
The next morning he calls, asking you to go to brunch, or some other daytime activity. You think in your head, ‘He really does like me and wants to get to know me more.’ During this moment you have an amazing time and again kiss, planning your next meeting. And, by the next evening, you cannot help or resist your connection with him, as your panties fall to the floor and the inevitable occurs.
As the day breaks, you wake up and turn to your side…wondering how he is going to react. Don’t act like you haven’t had this moment of contemplation before. It is the easiest way to gauge a man. When he is super sweet in the morning and gives you a kiss, there is something more. If he talks about everything he has to do that day (i.e. play golf, a meeting, etc.) and rushes you out the door, it means it was a one night stand. It’s as easy as that! And, this guy gives you a huge hug and kiss.
The days and weeks progress and you continue to speak on the phone and via text. However, a few months later you realize that you haven’t seen him in weeks, the conversations have dissipated and the texts are sporadic. And, at this moment you realize…hey, I was totally played. That’s when you know you have met a real playboy. You continued to talk and things just slowly ended. And, you never saw it coming. This is a playboy worth the term. And for that, I will not hate the player…I can only respect his vast efforts. Beware, this TRUE playboy is out there and you could be his next victim. However, it doesn’t hurt and you kind of respect the guy. Which is why I cannot give guys the term playboy if they don’t deserve it :-).